Changes: Life, Love and Loss

Today I'm over at Beth's blog DesignPOST participating in her Take Two series sharing the biggest and best changes I've made in both my space and my life. The bonus question asks what I would do if I had only five dollars...any guesses? Head on over and check it out
On a more personal note...
Thinking about changes has me reflecting on the past year and how much my life has changed. I'm so confident that I am following the path that I was born to take, but that doesn't mean the road has been easy. Four months ago I wrote a post hinting at some tough personal issues that I was going through. It was impossible for me to talk about then, still hard for me to talk about today - especially in a public forum, but as a blogger I feel it's important to let you all into my life. Not just the pretty parts, but the raw, personal parts too.
The fact is, in June my three year relationship came to an end. 
We continued to try to make things work for awhile after that, but at the end of the day we realized that we have grown apart and that it's time for us both to move forward. I have gained so much from what we shared and am so grateful for the relationship we had. He is a good man and I know that he will do great things with his life. I wish him all the best - the best life, the best love, the best friends. 

I'll be honest, after it ended I fell into a pretty big slump. I questioned my choice, what I was doing with my life, if I was on the right path, what would have happened if I had stayed in my hometown. It's never easy to let go, even when you know it is the right thing. But as the months have passed I've gained confidence in my decision and am moving forward. I'm ready to open my arms to new opportunities and accept all that is coming for me. I know today that no matter the circumstances, the outcome would be the same - God has His plan and I am so excited for all that it entails. I feel fate at work. I feel something special in the air. I wake early every morning healed, thankful and ready.
To myself and anybody else going through something similar I say this:
Keep your chin up. You are worth it. You are strong. Don't be afraid to be alone. Don't be afraid to fall in love again. Don't think you are incapable of staying in love - when you find the right person it will stick. There is someone out there completely right for you, so right that everything you've gone through will make sense. Don't let fear paralyze you. Your happiness must come first. Take chances and listen to the voice in your head, trust your gut, and most importantly follow your heart.

Have a blessed day my loves. xo


Beth of designPOST Interiors said...[Reply]

Thanks for sharing on my blog today and good for you for sharing on here too. There is nothing more important than listening to that voice in your head and trusting it even when everything fees chaotic. The older I get, the more excited I get for what's in store for me. Keep on chasing this dream missy and everything will fall into place!

Unknown said...[Reply]

I hope you are feeling better these days :) I know how tough a breakup like that can be but you have so many wonderful things in store that are yet to come!!! I love following along on your blog!


Linda said...[Reply]

I am a true believer that things happen for a reason. I follow your blog, may not always post but you have a great talent. You will also meet Mr.Right in the near future.

Unknown said...[Reply]

Thanks for sharing - When times get really tough, we always ask ourselves "why me" , but I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason. We may not understand why now, but later on it will be made clear. Hang in there.

Laura Dro said...[Reply]

Hi! long time no talk!

I hate hearing stuff like this to people I like:( Wish I could give you a hug and a Starbucks!

But, you have the right attitude for sure. Speaking from experience, a broken heart can lead you to the man of your future.

We've been in touch for a long time and I can't believe the path you and your career has taken. You have an amazing talent and passion. Don't let that fade.

You are a beautiful girl and any guy is lucky to even take you on a date! I know it's hard to realize now, but one day it will all make sense! Trust me I'm an old married lady and I went through a bad break up around your age. It all gets better with time:)


Elizabeth @ The Little Black Door said...[Reply]

You have an excellent head on your shoulders and a beautiful heart in your soul. What a wonderful attitude you have on the whole situation. I know it isn't easy to keep that good attitude all of the time but you are working hard and it will pay off. Hugs to you!

Hannah said...[Reply]

Break ups are the absolute worst but everything happens for a reason and it will all work out for the best! YOU deserve the very best :). xo

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Unknown said...[Reply]

I love you and I love this post. Thanks for opening up and sharing this with us. I believe that when people have the courage, focus and determination to do what they truly love, everything will fall into place - in all aspects of their life. It's so important to surround yourself with positive people who are honest, believe in you and continue to lift you up and make you a better person. I see how much passion you have for what you are doing and I don't think you should ever question it. You are so talented and beautiful and I know you are destined for great things.

You have a great attitude so good for you, girl. Stay positive! xoxo

Alyssa said...[Reply]

Went through a breakup 3 months ago as well.. it's always so tough but one of the quotes that made me feel stronger was "Do something today that your future self will thank you for".

xo Alyssa

Linda {Calling it Home} said...[Reply]

Oh sweet Tiffany, I wish you could fast forward about 10 years and look back at yourself. You will be so proud of yourself for all the right decisions you have and are making. One day at a time. It always works out for the best.

The Peak of Tres Chic said...[Reply]

Tiffany! I am so sorry love. I'm sending you so much positivity + love right now. I know it isn't easy... but each day you'll get a little stronger. Take care of yourself doll.

Julia@Cuckoo4Design said...[Reply]

I saved your post to read for when I was comfortable at home. I wish I would have been as strong as you when I was your age and so focused. It is the hardest thing ever to let go of a relationship and the way you look at it is so right. I went through one terrible brake-up in my life that almost completely ruined me. I know I have said it before but you will be one successful chick and your outlook is perfect ;)

Sarah said...[Reply]

Tiffany sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear that you went through such a rough time. I'm so happy for you that you are following your path in life and glad you realize this. Sometimes it's just hard getting there. Chin up and sending you lots of love oxoxo

Patty Day @Pattys Epiphanies said...[Reply]

We have ups and downs in life. Learn from them....Your "love" will appear when you least expect it.

Bethany [at] Powell Brower Home said...[Reply]

oh tiffany, i thank you for sharing. i am so sorry to hear that. nothing worse than a broken heart. hurts more than a broken limb. i hope hope hope that in time it lessens and you eventually get right back on the horse. thinking of you! said...[Reply]

I stayed 9 years with the same man and when we got separated I felt like if my whole world was falling apart. But I fell in love again and after 5 years the same end ... So I understand how you feel when a relationship comes to an end. But as you I believe that God has a plan for each one of us so I try to stay confident even if it's not always easy. I trust Him, I follow the path He wants me to and I hope it will take me to something better.

Brooke said...[Reply]

I love that you shared this Tiffany since it's something that everyone goes through at some point or another and it really helps to hear someone's positive perspective on it. LOVE the beautiful message you shared even through the pain! Chin up girl and huge (virtual) hugs to you!!

LiveLaughDecorate said...[Reply]

Awww lady, sorry that you've been struggling with this quietly. I figured as much since you hadn't posted any relationship mentions in months. It's an awful pain, that believe it or not, will one day be a very distant memory. You will look back one day and in fact thank him for preparing you for a really great man/relationship. In the words of the great poet Maya Angelou, this too shall pass. Hang in there.

Anonymous said...[Reply]

Hi Tiffany...just saw your post strong girl, and follow your dream.People come and go in life , but who you are is the one thing that you can count on. Never give up something you are passionate about and you have a gift, so pursue it with all your heart.
Sorry that you had to go through this, but this is what life is about and as you get older you will realise that choices you make early on in life create the life you have.You have done the right thing...never doubt that...when the time is right, the person you are meant to be with will appear. Take care

Heather Moore Grahling | Vivid Hue Home said...[Reply]

Thank you for sharing such a personal part of yourself. Know you're hurting and probably constantly questioning your decision but you have the right attitude. One foot in front of the other. One day at a time. Some days are more difficult than others. You will get through it. I made a huge step like that and moved from my hometown to NYC. 3 years later, I met my now husband. You are so talented. You know what's best for you. Hang in there girlie.